Acting from the unhealed need to please others can leave us with unrealistic expectations. We may have acted from a place of over giving to compensate for our diminished sense of self-worth in the hopes that another party would recognize and reciprocate our efforts. It is devastating to finally realize that our best interest was never at the heart of the other party. Their primary objective was to use our vulnerability for their own personal gain, and our well-being was never their concern.
This realization can cause us to act upon the wide range of emotions that spring from this moment of clarity. Feelings of humiliation conjure ways to make the other party feel even more humiliated. Disappointment pushes us into a corner of generalized distrust, bringing about long seasons of disconnect and isolation. Feelings of abandonment can cause us to abandon our own health and well-being.
While it is never easy to move beyond unfair treatment, remaining entangled in the details of how others have treated us keeps us under their control. Fighting the same battle with the same person and expecting a different result is long, tiring and unproductive. Our energy is better spent disconnecting from toxic energy and routing that energy into our own healing.
We may be better served by cutting our losses and setting new expectations of ourselves. This allows us to work on our own healing, thereby changing the type of people and situations we attract. We take personal responsibility for who and what we allow into our healed space, and we leave it to the Universe to determine the outcome of unfair treatment.
When we proclaim our worthiness of fair treatment, we honor our intrinsic value. That honor extends to others as we treat them with the same fairness. The past is released and the future is molded into our vision of kindness and respect for self and others.
It is released.
Copyright Madeline A. Cameron March, 2025
Breathe.Gratitude.Love. 
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